How to be a Trans Ally

People often ask me how to be a better ally to the transgender and gender non-conforming communities. The first thing I tell them is try to put yourself in the shoes of a trans or gender non-conforming (GNC) individual. Imagine that the body you were born in is betraying you every day. Imagine the feeling that you were born in the wrong skin. Imagine looking in the mirror every day and seeing the wrong person looking back at you.

That being said, there are some easy solutions to how to be a better ally to us:

Survey says LGB youth need our protection

Accelerated action is needed to protect the health and wellbeing of our lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) youth, according to study results just released by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). Findings from the report, Sexual Identity, Sex of Sexual Contacts, and Health-Related Behaviors Among Students in Grades 9-12, show that LGB students experience physical and sexual violence and bullying at much higher levels than their straight peers.

The CDC discovered that LGB youth are significantly more likely to report:

  • Being forced to have sex (18% LGB vs. 5% straight)
  • Sexual dating violence (23% LGB vs. 9% straight)
  • Physical dating violence (18% LGB vs. 8% straight)
  • Being bullied at school (34% LGB vs. 19% straight)
  • Being bulled online (28% LGB vs. 14% straight)

An open letter from LGBT community centers on the Orlando shooting

Our hearts break for the LGBT community in Orlando and for the families, friends, and loved ones of those who were killed.
While we are still learning many facts about the shooting, one thing is clear: this attack targeted LGBT people, particularly the many LGBT Latinx people attending Latin night at the Pulse nightclub. As community center leaders, we see the vast work that remains to eliminate homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, racism, and many other forms of bigotry from our communities; after Sunday, what is visible every day to us has now become clear to all.
LGBT bars were the original community centers; they were often the place where lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people could be themselves, find support, and meet other like-minded people. For over four decades LGBT community centers have been dedicated to creating safe spaces where people find sanctuary from hostility and find acceptance not available to them elsewhere. Like Pulse, LGBT community centers are places where people gather and build families of love.
June marks LGBT Pride Month. LGBT community centers across the country are hosting pride festivals, parades, and events to celebrate our history and the progress that we have made. In times of tragedy the LGBT community has always come together to show its resilience. We see this resilience now as we gather for local vigils, raise funds for the survivors, and renew our commitments to visibly demonstrate the many facets of our community pride.
Now more than ever we must raise our voices and be heard.
We as the community of LGBT centers denounce any attempts to scapegoat the Muslim community. As with LGBT people, Muslims have experienced hate based violence, stereotyping, and bigotry. We stand with our Muslim friends and allies in calling for an end to this intolerance. We appreciate the outpouring of support from Muslim leaders and are working hard to support the many LGBT Muslims struggling to heal from this tragedy.
We as the community of LGBT centers call for our communities, our allies, and our friends to demand action to hold our elected officials accountable for passing laws that limit access to assault weapons. We must make a decision about whether we want to be a country that is content with mass shootings becoming commonplace. LGBT people will always be at risk as long as bigots have easy access to assault weapons.
We as the community of LGBT centers demand that politicians and religious leaders stop spewing their hateful rhetoric and justifying their words with ignorance or religious verse. Your words cause harm. We will not stand by quietly when you whisper, shout, or legislate your hate. In response you will hear our shouts of condemnation for your actions, and our shouts of love and support for our LGBT family.
We will continue to serve our communities in good times and in bad. We will continue to stand strong. We will continue to build love and acceptance. With the support of our allies and fair-minded people from around the globe, we will win full equality for LGBT people, everywhere and forever.
In Pride,
CenterLink: The Community of LGBT Centers


  • Affirmations
  • All Under One Roof
  • Alliance for GLBTQ Youth
  • ALSO Youth
  • BAGLY, Inc. (Boston Alliance of LGBTQ Youth)
  • Blue Ridge Pride Center
  • Bradbury-Sullivan LGBT Community Center
  • Canadian Centre for Gender & Sexual Diversity/Day of Pink
  • CAR- LGBTQ Center in Little Rock 
  • Center Lane
  • Center on Halsted
  • Central Illinois Pride Health Center
  • David Bohnett Foundation
  • DC Center for the LGBT Community 
  • Destination Tomorrow
  • Focus on Awareness and Information Resources of New York (FAIR NY)
  • Great Falls LGBTQ+ Center
  • Hudson Pride Connections Center
  • Identity, Inc.
  • In Our Own Voices
  • Inside/Out Youth Services
  • JASMYN, Inc.
  • Kalamazoo Gay Lesbian Resource Center
  • Kaleidoscope Youth Center
  • Latino Pride Center, NYC
  • Lesbian Health Initiative (LHI)
  • LGBT Center at Ohio University
  • LGBT Center of Central PA
  • LGBT Center of Raleigh
  • LGBT Community Center of Greater Cleveland
  • LGBT Community Center of the Desert
  • LGBT Detroit
  • LGBT Network (Long Island/Queens)
  • LGBT Visitor Center
  • LGBTQ Center Long Beach
  • LGBTQ Center of Durham
  • LGBTQ Center of the Finger Lakes
  • LGBTQMUNITY Center of Montgomery County Pennsylvania
  • Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth (LIGALY)
  • Long Island LGBT Community Center
  • Los Angeles LGBT Center
  • Marsha Botzer-CenterLink Board Member
  • Memphis Gay & Lesbian Community Center
  • Metro Wellness & Community Centers
  • Michelle Kristel-CenterLink Board Member
  • Milwaukee LGBT Community Center
  • NEPA Rainbow Alliance
  • North Star LGBT Community Center in Winston-Salem, NC
  • Northwest Arkansas Center for Equality
  • Oklahomans for Equality 
  • one n ten
  • Our Center
  • Our Space LGBTQ Youth Center
  • Out Boulder County
  • Out Youth
  • OutCenter of Southwest Michigan
  • Outlinc - Lincoln's LGBTQ Community Center
  • OutReach LGBT Community Center
  • OUTright Youth of Catawba Valley
  • Pacific Center for Human Growth
  • Pacific Pride Foundation
  • Paul Moore-CenterLink Board Member
  • Persad Center
  • Phillip Rush Center
  • Phoenix Center
  • Phoenix Pride LGBT Center
  • Polestar LGBT Center of Traverse City
  • Pride Center at Equality Park
  • Pride Center of Staten Island 
  • Pride Center of Vermont
  • Pride Community Services Organization
  • Pridelines, Miami's LGBTQ Center
  • PRISM-Q LGBT & Allies Resource Center in Placer County, CA
  • Proud Haven
  • Q Center of Portland
  • QSpot LGBT Community Center
  • Queens LGBT Center (QCenter)
  • Queens Pride House, NYC
  • RAD Remedy
  • Rainbow Community Center of Contra Costa County
  • Rainbow Resource Centre
  • Rainbow Serenity
  • Resource Center
  • Rockland County Pride Center
  • Ruth Ellis Center
  • Sacramento LGBT Community Center
  • SAGE-Long Island
  • San Diego LGBT Community Center
  • San Francisco LGBT Community Center
  • SOURCE LGBT+ Center Visalia, CA
  • Spencer Pride Community Center
  • SunServe
  • The Attic Youth Center
  • The Center Orlando
  • The Center Project in Columbia, Mo
  • The Center: 7 Rivers LGBTQ Connection
  • The Center-Advancing LGBT Colorado
  • The Community Center, Inc.
  • The Diversity Center: Santa Cruz County
  • The Gay & Lesbian Center of Southern Nevada
  • The Hawaii LGBT Legacy Foundation (@The LGBT Center)
  • The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center
  • The LGBT Center of Hampton Roads
  • The LOFT LGBT Community Center
  • The Montrose Center
  • The Newark LGBTQ Community Center
  • The Phillip Rush Center
  • The Pride Center of New Jersey
  • The Pride Center of New Jersey
  • The Rhode Island LGBTQ Center
  • The Spahr Center
  • Triangle Community Center
  • Upper Delaware GLBT Center, Inc.
  • Utah Pride Center - Salt Lake City 
  • Washington County Gay Straight Alliance, Inc.
  • Western Montana LGBT Community Center
  • William Way LGBT Community Center
  • Women in Network
  • Youth Outlook
  • Youth Outright WNC, Inc.

Mayor Goodman’s Statement On Orlando Shooting

“On Sunday, I contacted Mayor Buddy Dyer of Orlando to express our deepest sympathies and support from Las Vegas. In a similar way, I attended the vigil Sunday night in downtown Las Vegas to remember the victims and to support the LGBTQ community. While I have been a longtime supporter of banning assault weapons, the vigil was not the time or the place for political argument or discussion. I wanted to honor those we lost. As we did following September 11, our nation will pull together after this horrendous tragedy, and working with law enforcement, I know hate will never triumph.”

— Mayor Carolyn G. Goodman

Messages of Support from Local Organizations in Wake of Orlando Tragedy


The Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Southern Nevada

Our community [on the morning of June 12] woke up to the sickening and sad news of the tragedy at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando, Florida. We are sickened by the heinous nature of the shooting. We are saddened because we have lost brothers and sisters who are like ourselves.

Our community stands in solidarity with the victims and their families and the entire LGBTQ community. As an act of reverence for their lives, in solidarity, our community is coming together June 12 at 7pm at The Center to mourn the loss of those who have lost their lives and encourage support of those who are fighting for their lives.

This incident also, once again, raises our awareness to the availability and accessibility of guns in our society, especially guns of a semi-automatic nature. We call out to our political leadership to respond to the cries of thousands, perhaps millions of people calling for greater gun control.

Equality Florida, the state’s LGBTQ civil rights organization, has set up a GoFundMe page to help raise funds for the victims and families of the horrific shooting at Orlando’s Pulse Nightclub. Please donate if you are able:


Muslim Council of America Foundation

Muslim Council of America (Nevada Chapter) condemns the heinous act of violence in Florida on LGBT community. Mr. Omar Mateen, the killer, said that he was inspired by ISIS. Our Council wants to make it very clear that not only we condemn his action but also condemns the ideology of ISIS. ISIS are the thugs that have taken the innocent citizens of Iraq and Syria hostage. They have no place in modern society and should be defeated by all diplomatic & military means.

Mr. Mateen, in our opinion, was driven by hate and his action inspired by the worst ideology and should be condemned by all humans regardless of race, religion or ethnicity.

We stand together, shoulder to shoulder, with the LGBT community. We pray together for the victims of this senseless murder. Las Vegas LGBT community will always find the local Muslim Community standing next to them may it be in joy or unfortunately, as today, in sorrow.


Centerlink: The Community of LGBT Centers

The news of the Orlando shooting at Pulse, a popular LGBT bar, has stunned and saddened all this morning. With news of 50 people dead, and more wounded, June 12 will be forever etched in our communities' history as a day of grief. CenterLink, the community of LGBT Centers, stands with LGBT leadership and our many allies across the country in expressing our deep sadness at this horrific event.
The GLBT Community Center of Orlando opened immediately and has therapists onsite offering free grief counseling for community members. People have been streaming in all day to the Center. If locals are interested in helping, representatives have said donations of food and water are welcome. "The National Association of Social Workers Florida has responded directly offering volunteer therapists in Orlando," reports CenterLink Executive Director, Terry Stone, "we are grateful for their support in this time of crisis. We are also grateful for every single mental health provider who publicly lists themselves as LGBT welcoming; our communities will need you."
"Tragedies like this have a profound impact across all of our population," says Dr. Scout, Director of LGBT HealthLink at CenterLink. "My heart is with everyone in Orlando and I am also very concerned about the associative trauma on LGBT people everywhere hearing this news. We urge LGBTQ people across the world today to take care of your own mental health; you may not be close to Orlando but we cannot underestimate the toll events like this take on our lives. If you are an ally, now is the time to stand up and show your support."
Many LGBT community centers are opening their doors today to provide support for local community members and allies. "LGBT community centers are the gathering points for people in times of celebration and in times of crisis like today," says Mr. Stone. The Pride Center in Ft. Lauderdale and Equality Florida have already announced vigils. Consult the listings of of local LGBT community centers at or equality organizations at for more information about local responses.
"As we hold the people in Orlando in the light today, let us also take care of ourselves," concludes Mr. Stone. In the words of Terry DeCarlo, the Executive Director of the GLBT Community Center of Orlando, "We're here."


Las Vegas Pride

Dear Family and Friends

Today is a horrific day for the citizens of the United States and particularly the LGBT Community. The act of violence that was carried out in Orlando this morning is the countries worst massacre. On behalf of the Southern Nevada Association of Pride, Inc, we express our sincerest condolences to the victims, family members, friends and those who witnessed this senseless act of violence. May those who lost their lives rest in peace and those injured have a speedy and full recovery.

A time such as this calls for our community to band together more than ever as a family and show our love and support. It is a time to love each other as people and reflect just how dangerous and deadly HATE is, and the results it produces.
We don't yet have all the facts behind the motive and must not focus on speculation, rather focus on being vigilant and if you see something out of the ordinary and your instinct is telling you something is off, please say something to our local or federal authorities. Violence like this must stop and often is stopped by vigilant citizens.

June is the official Pride month designated by President Obama. This weekend alone we have more than a dozen Pride celebrations taking place across the country. Although these celebrations of who we are and the value we bring as a community will be somber as we reflect on our brothers and sisters who lost their lives or were injured last night, we must still come together as one. We must embrace all of our LGBT Community and Allies as one community and continue the conversations about ending the hate against our community and live as one. We must strive to accomplish a life where everyone enjoys full equality.
Our hearts, love and prayers go to the city of Orlando and the victims of last night. We are here and stand with you!

James Healey
President, Las Vegas Pride


Masjid Ibrahim

Masjid Ibrahim is an independent local non-profit mosque and religious center open to all members of the community.
On June 12, 2016, a horrendous act of terror occurred targeting members of the LGBTQ community in Orlando, FL.  Too often, such acts have involved purported Muslim attackers and more often than not, these same attackers have attempted to justify their horrendous and cowardly actions by invoking faith, the same faith that our late hero Muhammad Ali invoked while refusing to enter into armed conflict.
There remains no question that the heinous act committed yesterday was cowardly, pathetic, disgraceful, and the antithesis of what we promote at Masjid Ibrahim.  We maintain active ties to law enforcement and constantly do our utmost to ensure that we promote peace and harmony.  While those adopting radical views are unlikely to ever attend our mosque based on our message of love, we must assert that we stand in full solidarity with the people in Orlando, FL affected by this attack, and absolutely condemn any attack on our LGBTQ brothers and sisters worldwide.


Anti-Defamation League

The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) is shocked and horrified at the heinous attack at The Pulse nightclub in Orlando, targeting the LGBT community.
The investigation into this attack is still underway and law enforcement authorities have yet to definitively comment on the killer’s motivation. The Anti-Defamation League has contacted the lead investigating agencies to offer our support and resources into investigating the incident, described as terror, and the alleged perpetrator, whom law enforcement has identified as Omar Mateen of Port St. Lucie, Fl.
ADL Florida Regional Director Hava L. Holzhauer commented, “We have seen brutal acts of violence and terror take lives from Brussels to South Carolina, and from Tel Aviv now to Orlando.
The lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community should know they do not stand alone. We mourn the victims of this calamity, and offer our deepest condolences to the victims, the wounded, their families, and loved ones.
As we have just marked the beginning of Pride month, together as a society we stand resolute that hate shall not diminish the pride of tolerance, the pride of acceptance, and the pride of unity.
We also extend our deepest respect and esteem to the Orlando Police Department, Orange County Sheriff’s Office, Federal Bureau of Investigations, and the Florida Department of Law Enforcement for their valiant efforts to ensure a swift response and putting their lives on the line to save as many people as they could.”


Jewish Federation of Las Vegas

The Jewish Federation of Las Vegas stands with you and all others who stand against hatred and bigotry of any kind. Please let me know if there is more that we can do as an organization and Jewish community to assist in your efforts moving forward. Again, we are with you and will continue to pray for a day when we can all live in peace.


Congregation P'Nai Tikvah

The words of the Asseret HaDibrot/the Ten Commandments read in synagogues all over the world this morning were particularly meaningful on this Shavuot dayin the shadow of the horrendous terrorist attack this morning in Orlando, Florida.  "Thou shalt not murder" we are told....and yet, once again murder has been perpetrated.  It is the Muslim month of Ramadan, a time when Muslims pray for peace....and yet, once again Islam has been perverted and death and pain has come.  It is a time when the LGBTQ community has been celebrating Gay Pride, around the world...and yet, once again, the unthinkable has targeted the LGBTQ community.  Fifty people are dead; over 50 people are wounded, many critically. Unthinkable!

We in the Jewish community are still reeling from the terrorist attack a few days ago in Tel Aviv...and now this.  We are stunned, grieving, despondent, angry, but we must not succumb to fear or hatred.
We pray that there will not be repercussions taken against the Muslim community.  We pray that healing will come to those who were wounded.  We mourn those who were so heinously murdered and pray for their souls and the well-being of their families.  And we beg those in power to finally do something to curb the availability of automatic weaponry.
There will be a prayer vigil at 7:00 p.m. this evening at the Center, 401 South Maryland Parkway, Las Vegas, NV 89101.  Ordinarily I would neither be on the internet nor traveling on Shavuot...but this is no ordinary Shavuot.  If you can, I invite you to join me at the prayer vigil this evening. Pray for peace. Pray for safety.
L'Shalom al kol ha-olam....
Rabbi Yocheved Mintz